This is the time of year that I hear loads of people saying what they’re going to do in the New Year to improve themselves: maybe they want to push themselves forward at work so they stand out more, maybe they’re going to really push for that promotion or new role. It might not necessarily be work related, but it’s all to do with ambition, those goals we really want to achieve.
Last week a friend told me she’d downloaded the Couch to 5k app to start in January, but that she really hated it. So (obviously) I asked why she was doing it. After a bit of stammering and stuttering she said she had to do something, she was unfit and unhappy, and that although she hadn’t enjoyed it last time, and it had taken a while, she’d got about 2/3 of the way through before she’d got fed up with it, so maybe this time she’d finish it.
So (again, obviously), my next question was, “Why don’t you find something you actually enjoy doing?” After all, getting 2/3 through something 4 or 5 times before giving up isn’t exactly a shining example of something that’s working for her!
Every year, people make resolutions, set goals, with the ambition of being ‘better’. And every year, they try the same things over and over, doing things they don’t enjoy but that they think they ought to be doing, and they wonder why they fall at the first hurdle. Well, we’ve all heard the definition of madness – doing the same thing over and over but expecting a different result.
Maybe it’s time to try doing things differently in 2024?
A lot of people think that to reach a goal, you have to suffer, that if you haven’t struggled then you don’t deserve of the prize. And that’s rubbish! If you want to achieve something, then the way to do it is by finding a way of making it work for you, which means finding an easier way to do it. So often we follow the same approaches over and over, even though they don’t work, and we tell ourselves that we’re the problem. They work for other people, after all, so there must be something wrong with us and we just need to try harder.
Whether it’s improving your fitness, boosting your confidence in the workplace, or advancing your career, if what you’ve been doing isn’t working for you, then it’s time to try something else.
If you’re looking for a different way to do things in the New Year, then get in touch. My new programme is designed to help you boost your confidence and reach those career goals, without stressing you out. Book a call today to find out more.
Have a fantastic Christmas and New Year!